The end-of-day dirty dishes are a nagging irritation to many women. She might grumble, hoping he’ll pick up the hint, but ends up washing them so she can finally call it a day. Now consider this, fellas: Men who do their fair share of housework have more sex, according to Matt Johnson, PhD, lead author of a new study published in the Journal of Family Psychology.
This comes on the heels of a 2013 study, which found just the opposite—that men who do “traditionally female household chores” (e.g. doing the laundry) had less sex than those who left it all to their wives. That just didn’t sound right to Johnson, a family ecology professor at the University of Alberta.
To settle the question, he examined data from a five-year study of 1,338 German couples, looking specifically at the housework the male partner did. When men perceived their contributions as “fair,” the couple had sex more frequently and both parties were satisfied with the between-the-sheets action. “Rather than avoiding chores in the hopes of having more sex, men are likely to experience more frequent and satisfying passion between the sheets when they simply do their fair share," Johnson continues.
And, as a new Pew Survey points out, the stress of a two-career household is a critical problem for most families. In most cases, women are still responsible for most of the child care and housework. Fathers may feel like they’re sharing the chores, but only 46 percent of mothers agree with that perception, according to the data.
Although the researchers did not reach a firm conclusion as to why sharing chores increases the frequency of sex, perhaps it’s because wives who get help with household responsibilities are less stressed and thus get more sleep, which is linked to having a better sex life. Sounds like anyone who feels overwhelmed by all the cooking and cleaning can benefit from having a heart-to-heart talk with their partner. Start dividing up tasks to make sure both parties are satisfied. Once that’s done, explore all the other ways you can boost your sex life (can’t hurt!).
- Psycentral.com: Fair Division of Housework = Better Sex Life
- Medical News Today: Men Who Do Their Fair Share of Housework Have Better Sex Life
- Medical News Today: Husbands Who Share Housework Have Less Sex.
- Pew Research Center: Raising Kids and Running a Household: How Working Parents Share the Load
- The New York Times: Stressed, Tired, Rushed: A Portrait of the Modern Family