Whether intimacy issues have put a damper on your sex life or you and your significant other just want to learn a few new between-the-sheets tricks, there is no better way to reignite the fire in a relationship than devoting a weekend or a week to love and lust by enlisting in a sex retreat. We aren’t talking about a couple’s swingers vacation at Hedonism II, which is what most people think of when they hear “sex retreat.” There are actually a number of structured vacations and getaways around the world that offer things like intensive therapy and group workshops with the world’s top sexperts, sexologists, and relationship and family therapists along with eroticism-inducing activities like Kundalini yoga, Tantra, meditation, candlelit dinners and in-room “homework assignments.” Whether you’re super progressive and have no problem losing your inhibitions or you blush at the word “penis,” there’s a sex retreat out there for you. So book your trip, pack your bags and get ready to explore your sexuality like never before!
Couples Spa and Yoga Vacation in Bali
What to expect: This three-day, two-night retreat at the luscious and tropical Om Ham Retreat in Ubud, Bali, Indonesia, features an intense emphasis on Kundalini Tantra yoga.
Who it’s good for: Yogis and couples searching for a mental, physical and sexual state of healing through the practice of Kundalini Tantra yoga.
How much it costs: From $524 per person, includes airport pickup service; daily meals and a romantic candlelight dinner; spa treatments; and guided meditation for two.
Dates: Check-in dates are flexible! Book like a regular vacation.
Love Life Couples Tantra Retreat in the Australian Bush with Jacqueline Hellyer
What to expect: Jacqueline Hellyer, one of Australia’s top authorities on sex and relationships, takes a maximum of seven couples per weekend on a getaway in the Wollemi Wilderness in the Blue Mountains to “deepen your love, strengthen your connection, heighten your intimacy.” The self-dubbed “Sex Geek” leads couples through a “completely classy and sleaze-free” journey into sacred sexuality, conscious relating and an introduction to the practices of Tantra, dividing each day up into lessons but giving couples “plenty of time to practice alone” between sessions.
Who it’s good for: Couples “who are in a good space and want to get even better.”
How much it costs: Around $1,300 per couple for the retreat (includes gourmet food, gifts, breakfast), plus $110–$720 per night for accommodations.
Dates: October 23–25 and November 6–8, 2015.
Photo: Courtesy www.lovecabins.com.au
Orgasmic Enlightenment Retreat with Kim Anami in Puerto Vallarta
What to expect: Sexpert Kim Anami is bringing eight couples and a handful of adventurous singles south of the border to lush eco-resort Xinalani for “sexual exploration, sexual mastery, heart-opening lessons, erotic inspiration and wild exhilaration.”
Who it’s good for: Those looking for a truly erotic week with yoga, meditation, sex toys, homemade truffles and sparkling wine as well as guidance from one of the world’s leading experts in sex. Probably not suited for the easily embarrassed or timid!
How much it costs: $3,300 for singles and $5,000 for couples; includes accommodations, gourmet meals, airport transportation, yoga, gifts and complimentary access to G-Spot Ecstasy, “a digital salon for sexual savants and spiritual seekers.”
Dates: November 5–12, 2016.
Bali Bliss Retreat with Kim Anami
What to expect: Experience Bali like you’ve never experienced it before! In a program similar to her aforementioned Orgasmic Enlightenment Retreat, Anami will take seven couples and a handful of singles to the “island of the gods” on a six-day sex date adventure. Guests will stay at the Bagus Jati health and wellness resort for seven nights, where days will be filled with workshops, yoga sessions and “private playtime.”
Who it’s good for: Open-minded couples looking to expand their sexual and erotic boundaries. If you’re uncomfortable saying the word “penis” or “anal,” this may not be the right retreat for you!
How much it costs: $3,300 for singles and $5,000 for couples; includes accommodations, gourmet meals, one-hour Balinese massage, airport transportation, daily shuttle to Ubud, yoga, gifts and complimentary access to G-Spot Ecstasy: “a digital salon for sexual savants and spiritual seekers.”
Dates: May 21–28, 2016 (sold out, but contact them to be added to wait list; dates for 2017 coming soon).
Coaching in Tantra and the Art of Intimate Relationships in Siesta Key, Fla.
What to expect: A weekend-long, structured workshop conducted by Richard and Diana Daffner, CS, MA, the authors of Tantric Sex for Busy Couples. Exercises include Tantra, massage, Reiki energy healing, meditation and relationship psychology as well as “homeplay assignments” between sessions.
Who it’s good for: Couples looking to deepen their sexual and emotional connection; take their relationship to the next level; improve romance, intimacy, trust and communication; and learn about Tantra and tantric sex.
How much it costs: $695 per couple.
Dates: Various weekend dates available through 2016.
The Art of Relationship Intimacy in Fiji
What to expect: Master trainer and sexologist Tammy Nelson, PhD, helps couples find intimacy as well as friendship in paradise at this six-night retreat. Mornings are spent in the Couples Retreat Workshop with Nelson, while afternoons and evenings are left free so you can explore the tropics and do your “homework”!
Who it’s good for: Couples struggling in a new relationship as well as happily and not-so-happily married couples.
How much it costs: $3,400 per couple; includes food, lodging, airport transfers, couple’s massage, waterfall excursion, snorkeling excursion and non-motorized resort activities.
Dates: TBD. For more information, contact Nelson at firstname.lastname@example.org.
Passion for Life Couples Intimacy Retreat in Whistler, B.C.
What to expect: A weekend-long workshop for eight couples held at the stunning Pan Pacific Whistler in British Columbia, Canada, led by Seattle-based clinical sexologist, family therapist and speaker/blogger/author Tina Schermer Sellers, PhD, which aims to help couples identify ideas and behaviors that have damaged their intimacy. Activities on touch, sensual expression and rituals of intimacy are designed to help couples achieve a more connected sexual relationship.
Who it’s good for: Married couples longing for deeper emotional, sexual and spiritual intimacy.
How much it costs: $1,995 per couple, plus $148 per night for one-bedroom suite.
Dates: September 24–27, 2015.
OBX Couples Retreats in Outer Banks, North Carolina
What to expect: A three-day intensive therapeutic retreat designed for couples who are looking for ways to explore and spice things up a bit, as well as couples who need a little more than just a spice-up. These retreats are arranged so that the six couples in each session have common issues and problems they wish to address. A bit more “PG rated” than some of the other retreats, there is no nudity or sexual touch during any sessions, but there will be homework assignments to be done in the privacy of your hotel room.
Who it’s good for: Modest and reserved couples who may be intimidated by some of the more “erotic” retreats. People looking for a therapeutic solution to their sexuality issues and not as much interested in “alternative” ones such as the study of Tantric sex and different types of yoga.
How much it costs: $995 per couple, plus $65 and up per night for lodging at the Avon Motel or Avon Cottages.
Dates: Dates vary. Check the website for more details.